Wednesday, April 20, 2005

Reserved for Ladies

On account of this outburst, I could well be termed a certified MCP but here goes. It seems to me that the ladies (notice how I have not used the term - women) are still a confused lot about what route to take to liberation. I will take an example to illustrate my point.
In the public transport I use, I find young and perfectly able-bodied woman glaring at even some senior citizens who have occupied the "ladies only" seats, with a silent (sometimes) admonishing and imploration for them to get up and offer them this sacred space reserved for them by the law. More often than not, these are educated, working women, who consider this reservation as their divine prerogative. (It is another matter that once enconsed in their seats, they would not bother to think about another female fellow-traveller in distress). And on the other hand, we find these young women attempting to "break the glass ceiling" at work, looking for equal opportunity employers, attempting to become more "men" than men.
I agree that above are extremely generalized situations but then, I hope you get the drift of what I am trying to say. Only that you can not have your cake and eat it too.

2 comments:

maluram said...

Why yaar? Why choose such a topic to write on? I have soooooooooo much to say, argue, put forward whatever. It's like the dalits saying that since for so many years we were unduly burdened we have right to enjoy equal no of years of extra priviledge.

Women have been supressed for ages; lets not talk about what works best for society, lets only talk of rights. If women do want to go out and work, just why not? They should not be unduly burdened. They have diff. hormones, so maybe different levels of strenght and stamina. To say ki shoulder se shoulder milane aayi hai to ab bhugat is so classless. Like ahinsa? It doesn't mean you are weaker, it means you are stronger. What makes you want to punish the women out to do something instead of encouraging them. It's a simple gradation. If a mother has a seat she'll vacate it for her child irrespective of the sex of her child. Simply because she has more stamina. If one is with his family young people do allow elders to sit, again irrespective of sex. Public transport is so full of strangers that no one wants to do a good deed, lets face it, it doesn't depend on whether you are male or female. It's not female nature, it's human nature to try and get what you want by hook or.. Don't you see people standing as close to an occupied restaurant table as possible and make it impossible for the occupier to stay a min longer than is absolutely necessary to finish his food? Sometimes it is a man making it impossible for a woman to sit. Order reversed. Justified?

It is only recently that I have started taking a bus to my work place and back. I observed on the front door the following message: "Boarding from the front allowed only for women, children, elders and disabled." Who's left yaar? Why can't they simply write men not to board at the front door? Arrogance has another name, no? Men have long believed THEY are the "society". Things and attitude need a change. It's not a matter of "women's seat" or reservation or quota. It's a mere question of encouragement. Men don't need any?

silbil said...

i am from delhi ...teh rape capital of india... and i used to travel in DTC bus and often faced the dilemma of whether to ask a man whatever his age maybe to get up or not...
i am sure you are not an MCP..coz at least you think...
i think most of the time the women want the seats not only coz they want to enjoy the luxury of a seat...but mainly its to get away from the lecherous (whatever the spelling is) men...and also sure they desrve the seats more because the middle class women who take the buses...99.9% of the time have to go back home and work too....so don't you think they neeed something that eases their tiredness...
just my view...feel free to rubbish it

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